There are millions, if not billions, of blogs online. Some are exceptionally well followed, others are not. Depending on which side of the fence you’re on, this could be making you feel good or bad. After all, the way most people usually measure their success is by the way they match up to others.
Comparison is an issue that affects most individuals. From childhood, we begin to evaluate our lives based on what’s happening in others. For example, the child who always wears the latest designer clothes is often seen as having the best life. However, most people don’t get to see what could be going on in the background of their life. While it’s not true in every case, I know of several kids who had the best of materials things growing up but also had nonexistent parents. Those clothes and gadgets were fillers to make up for the void in their heart.
So, when you hear the full details of the situation, doesn’t that cause you to never want to compare your life to anyone again? I know I do. Yet, it still happens. Let’s be honest; comparison takes place in many forms: education, money, relationship status, friends, appearance and much more.
As you can see, we all fall into a rut based on superficial things. However, things get murky when you start to look at another person and elevate your life based on what they have. Just think of how many single people have rushed to get married because all their friends are hitched. Nevertheless, a few months into the marriage, they soon realize that they weren’t ready for marriage and call it quits. This situation could have been avoided if they stopped comparing their life to others.
It’s impossible to know someone from the outside looking in. Pictures on social media don’t even begin to capture their reality. After all, you can post what you want people to see. I’m sure that you know of someone who seemed to be one way, but you soon learned that this was not case. Everyone wears a mask. That’s why it’s so dangerous to be jealous of others. Someone may have bought a new fancy car, but that doesn’t mean you need one too. Plus, what you don’t know is that this new car was given to them because they recently inherited some money.
I love the quote by Brene Brown: Stay in your lane. Comparison kills creativity and joy.
Honestly, I couldn’t have said it better myself. The grass is not greener on the other side. But you can water your side and make it beautiful. The fact is that not everyone is going to be a millionaire, famous blogger, national name, spouse or parent. Get in touch with who you are and know what gifts and talents you possess. Don’t try to be anyone other than who you were created to be because anything else is less than the best. Comparison will rob you of your happiness and stunt your growth. You don’t want that to happen.
“Don’t compare yourself with anyone else in this world. If you do, you are insulting yourself.” Anonymous