Earlier this week, I was watching a segment of The Real on the Top Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Younger. One of the hosts shared that she struggled with being her authentic self because of fear of what other people would think of her. To be honest, I think this is an area that most women and girls struggle with.
Oftentimes when you uncover the reasons why women fear being real, it boils down to being different. Take the example of some girls in high school who feel pressured to fit in with the crowd. They change their personality, looks, and friends so that they can be accepted. However, this leaves them unhappy and frustrated because they are representing something that isn’t true about themselves.
There are tons of women going through life trying to be another person. In this culture of filtering and airbrush, it can be difficult to like yourself. After all, everyone on the covers of Vogue magazine look perfect. However, you don’t know what those ladies had to go through behind closed doors to get selected for that shoot. Many models and celebrities have been open about the drastic measures they’ve taken to ensure they look picturesque. I can assure you that you don’t need to do the same.
Admitting that you are different can be scary. Let’s be honest, most humans desire acceptance. So being different can lead to rejection. But, acceptance on the basis of changing your identity is worse. It literally eats away at your soul. And to be honest, you don’t need people in your life who cannot handle the real you since they couldn’t possibly be your real friends.
It’s OK to be different. It’s OK to not do what everyone else is doing. You don’t have to apologize for who you are. If all of the 7+ billion people in the world looked and acted the same, what would be the point of life? You weren’t meant to be a copy. Enjoy being an original. You’re not a one size all type of women. Stand out as unique and be who you were meant to be. And that is – perfectly imperfect!