In the wave of busyness, it’s easy to forget who you are. From the moment you become an adult, life requires you to step into various roles. Student, employee, tenant, girlfriend, wife, and mother are most common. Yet, you still feel empty on the inside.
There is a time in every woman’s life when she begins to ask why she was created. Surprisingly, it doesn’t just boil down to a role. For example, I’ve heard many women say that their purpose in life is to be mothers. Frankly, it is incredible to grow a baby for nine months and then birth them into the world. However, some of these new moms admit that they still sense a void in their lives.
While I’m no doctor, I believe that we fail to capture what our purpose is genuine. To clarify, the goal is the “meaning,” not the “object.” Often, people have it the other way around. When we unpack the idea of motherhood, what we see is a desire to love and nurture another human being. This could mean having your child, but the fact is that it could also mean being an aunt, friend, lover etc. You must define the reality of your purpose, even if it’s unconventional.
Growing up, I always wanted to be a manager. I remember looking up to women in management positions and desiring to be them. I just knew that I had to be a boss. Finally, the long-awaited day had arrived, and I became a manager at a large nonprofit. I was so happy, and I knew that everything would be perfect. However, after the excitement wore off (literally a day), I fell into depression. I was left asking myself what next? I never envisioned anything beyond this position, and the result of my unawareness was a sense of purposelessness that I cannot even begin to describe. My entire identity was hinged on being a “manager,” which caused me to overlook my true desire to be a leader who guides and motivates others.
As you can see, I don’t need to be a manager to accomplish this. That’s why I started blogging. It makes me happy.
You, too can limit yourself to certain beliefs about who you should be. But, today is the day to start rethinking those ideas, to get to the core of who you are. In many ways, we have been programmed to believe that our life has to look a certain way for us to be fulfilled – a husband, 2.5 kids, and a house with a white picket fence. We’re fed these images from every angle. Don’t accept anything inauthentic because you know that your goals cannot be achieved in a stereotype. Go write that book, start your business, adopt a baby – whatever it is that makes your heart full – do it today.
Michaelangelo said it best: “A person without a purpose is a human being merely breathing because he does not know where he is, let alone knowing where he is going. Purposelessness is lifelessness”.
Let’s find out where we’re going!